Depression in men can look different. It often shows through behaviours and physical symptoms rather than sadness. Some men have depression and can be unaware that their mental health is not that great. They might ask for help, but their symptoms don’t match typical depression screening tools or major depression criteria. So, their depressive symptoms are missed.

How can we spot depression in men who don’t show typical symptoms?

Look out for the following signs and symptoms:

Physical

• Always tire or fatigued.
• Sleep problems.
• Headache and pains.
• Decrease in sexual interest, not necessarily activity.
• Declining physical health routines like going to the gym.

Emotional

• Appearing numb & hopeless.
• Reacting with excessive anger.
• Increased irritability & conflict.
• Withdrawal from others.
• High focus on staying productive & performing.
• Increased distraction with gaming, porn, scrolling.

Behavioural

• Excessive working.
• Increased alcohol & substance use to feel normal or avoid feelings.
• Increase in risk taking (e.g. dangerous driving) and not caring about the consequences.
• Isolating behaviour.

Men can struggle to ask for help because they might:

• Experience pressure to “tough it out”.
• Fear judgement.
• Not recognise symptoms.
• They could also believe it’s “just the way I deal with things.”

Depression in men is more common than we think. You are not alone. Things can change. Take the first step and ask for help. It might mean talking to a friend or a family member, seeing your GP about a mental health care plan, or contacting a psychologist.